Today I read a text on The problem is the solution. It is in Dutch and here is the translation:
Within us as unique individuals we have everything needed to make a next step. A condition being that you transform every experience into a positive learning experience. Do you feel resistance (now)? That is nothing else but feedback to open the door to being effective.
Begin to understand that your chosen solution is too often the problem. And also that in every moment you make the best choice available to you, based on your consciousness/awareness, your lessons and your experiences.
Also acknowledge then that every behavior has or had a positive intention. Frans Vermeulen, journalist
My free learning experiences are all over the place really, every day in many encounters I am challenged to remain OK. Also to tell my inner critical part to shut up or else I will send it to Siberia. The biggest learning experience right now is to live my life as I feel it is OK for me to live it.
As the problem is the solution, when I am not OK with being who I am in a situation, that is the solution to become OK again. Is is that simple? The free learning then would be:
- people that challenge me and touch me, make that I react by feeling no longer OK. This is the fastest way to learn how to take care of myself and my needs.
- I am teaching myself to set healthy boundaries by listening to my feelings.
- I tell myself that I am OK whatever I do, feel or say, that my needs are OK. There are no mistakes. Things might happen to help me become more me.
- I can let go of my old belief that I am not good enough.
There is a renewed sense also to stay in the “Let Go, let love-attitude” and allow experiences to come and go. To really acknowledge that I did the best I could under the circumstances. That I am not guilty for what I did and that I got something from the experience. Next thing to look at is What is emotional detachment? How can I be true to my self and make the influence that others have on me smaller and smaller?
Great quote. Thank you for the translation. This one line is so important to remember:
“…in every moment you make the best choice available to you, based on your consciousness/awareness, your lessons and your experiences.”
It was a pleasure to read your thoughts on the quote and “the problem is the solution.” I look forward to reading your next post in response to the last two questions.
Great post RW. I love thinking that there are no mistakes – it enables me to take a deep, affirming breath when I look back over some of my decisions in my 20s!
Best choice yes, no wrong choice existing seems a good idea. Ain’t life good to us, crown lady?
Decisions when we were 20? Djeez, that seems like ages ago. Glad that we forget about most things, no need to control any of those and no possibility to change them any more. We were innocent and we still are. Breathing reminds me of the joke of the blond girl going to the hairdresser with a headset. The hairdresser is not allowed to take it off while cutting her hear. Before long he cannot hold his curiosity any more and takes the headset and listens to it. The blond girl drops dead on the floor. He hears in the headset: Breath in, breath out.
So keep breathing everyone.