When I grew older, certain events showed me again and again what worked and what didn’t. I get red flags now and again and they make me look at what is happening. Life showed me:
1. Make your own itinerary
When buying clothes I used to look for what the popular girls were wearing. In some way I never liked what I bought. It was never me. Also when I finished university I looked for the best option. Other graduates told me, “A training on the job with a big company is the best option”. I listened well and found one. Many similar things have happened to me, looking for the opinion or actions of others to validate what I was doing. I know now that I validate my actions and decide on my itinerary.
2. Be a walking question mark
My children ask questions all the time. “What is that? What is it for? Why is it blue? Can I use this toothbrush to get the toy out of the toilet? Can you go to heaven by bicycle? Why do you work? I like it when my children ask those questions, they gave me back my wonderment and sense of surprise in life. I stopped doing that many years ago. I remember that I asked many questions myself and not often was there a time to get those answered. I am making an effort to be curious with them, to be a walking question mark every day.
3. Your soul guides you where you need to go
In life I have taken on concepts, guru’s and paths that did not feel right. My reasoning in the big brain often took over and said, “this is a good position with a good salary and prospects.” Or “this course/teacher/guru/concept works for many, it will have to work for me too.” But oh boy, how wrong did it feel! And how did I get disappointed. After a burn out I slowed down and found a sense of inner peace, especially in the mind. I decided to take time to listen to the silence within and also to the hunches that I receive. Both are easily overlooked in this crazy rat race called life. My soul will guide me where I need to go, intuition is the way it will use to do that. It will do that in the background, with love and tenderness.
P.s. After a night sleep I add this one:
4. You get what you need
I dreamed of many things that I wanted. Some material things and also a certain type of partner. Did I get them? Sometimes but not all the time. I am not sure why this happens. It could be that I do not need them, perhaps I frustrate myself in the process or maybe if I get it I would not be able to handle it. I met my partner when I was 30. If I would have met him earlier the relationship would not even have started. The time and experiences were all “necessary” steps to say Yes when he finally arrived.