To stay OK, someone suggested to practice emotional detachment. An exploration.
Detachment and attachment, two ways of thinking and feeling running through every day life. Detachment is when I keep listening to my inner guide, my feelings, my own drummer, my joy. I move towards what moves, touches and inspires me. It feels wonderful, peaceful, joyous, easy. The universe and I are friends. Life is good, I feel good and life has meaning.
Attachment is the opposite. Not much or no listening to my inner guide or even forgetting it. My feelings are on an all time low, the thoughts in my head are on an all time high. The transistor radio is so loud that my inner guide cannot be heard. Life feels horrible, I am at war with it, no fun, no glory, I could as well be dead. The universe and I are enemies. Life is bad, I feel bad and life holds no meaning any more.
When detached I am true to myself and others do not influence me so much. When attached the influence of others is big and more important than I am.
For example: My long hair was cut today, about 20 cm of hair got left on the floor of the hairdresser. I detached my hair so to speak and it felt good. It was what I wanted and the result was to my liking. The trap was that my ego got attached to people commenting on my hair with comments ranging from “I do not like it” to “Wow, that looks great”. There it is, even in things like this.
Here being attached to compliments did not make me feel great. Detachment would have worked better. So how can one influence spending more time in detachment-mode and less time in attachment-mode?
Don’t tell me to never cut my hair again, that is too easy. I have thought about practicing detachment, staying in the Now, listening to feelings, focus on the positive etc etc.